Dating can be challenging and scary, but it is a necessary step for two people to take when getting to know each other. In fact, the healthier a couple’s courtship, the more likely they will have a successful relationship.
The reason being is that dating in a healthy way means establishing respectful rules of engagement. When people date in a quality fashion, they get to know each other on many levels. Nothing is too rushed. The relationship develops at a slow but steady speed.
Below are 10 dating tips for a healthy relationship.
1) Let the guy take the lead.
Men like to pursue women, and they need to feel like they are the ones doing the chasing. Even if you as a woman flirt or plant a seed in their minds, allow them to pursue you. That means they should initiate communication and dating.
2) Keep the first three dates casual.
Keep the first three dates in a casual mode. Go to the movies. Spend some time at the local park on a picnic. Have a couple of drinks at the neighborhood pub.
Do not turn these dates into marathon ones. You both have lives, and do not need to immediately throw everything into a new person. You have lots of time to spend together down the road.
3) Avoid drinking too much on the first few dates.
While drinking too much is never a great idea, it’s a terrible move on your first few dates. When you drink way too much, you engage in behavior that is too intimate too soon. This behavior may be sexual in nature, or verbal. How many times have you told someone far too much when you had been drinking?
4) Do not talk about past relationships early in your courtship.
While it’s fine to disclose that you are divorced, it is not wise to talk about all of the details with someone on your first or second date. Guys especially are turned off when women talk about their ex-boyfriends to them.
5) Make a genuine effort to listen.
One of the big mistakes you may make is dominating the conversation. If someone is interested in you, then questions will be asked. Be sure to return the favor. Now is not the time to steal the show.
6) Engage in activities, as well as conversations.
Have you ever noticed how you can learn things about a person when playing a board game? You can see whether the person follows the rules. Or, you get insight on how competitive the person is.
For successful dating, engage in some fun and wholesome activities early in the relationship. You can learn so much about how your date treats others, or handles himself in a variety of situations.
7) Do not isolate too much with the other person.
You do not want to develop a relationship in a vacuum. It’s not healthy, or realistic. It also can lend toward possessive behavior. Go out and about when you first start dating someone.
8) Hold off on pushing for or disclosing too much information too fast.
If you are really into the new person you are seeing and he or she is really attentive, you may be tempted to really open up about all kinds of things. But, you are wise to hold your horses! When first hanging out with someone, keep the conversation topics relatively light. As your dating progresses, so will the level of intimacy in your sharing.
9) Spend some time with friends.
You learn a great deal about a person you are dating when you meet their friends. Healthy couples spend time with friends of both parties in the couple. That is important, as you do not want one person to give up his prior social life completely for the other.
10) Have some fun.
Dating can be stressful, but try to have some fun! If you are meant to be with someone, it will develop over time. Try not to jump to too many conclusions, and take it for what it is. Dating can be entertaining, and it can lead to lots of great stories. Remember to get a kick out of it, as one day you may miss your free-wheeling days.