You passed throw flirting and smiles and you want more. In this case, take control of the situation and accomplish your goals. Women with initiative are in fashion. Why let everything on him? Maybe he doesn’t handle well; maybe you should have more self confidence and show him that you know what you want.
In the following lines you will find 10 steps you must do in order to transform a simple flirt into a beautiful love story.
1. Challenge him to an exciting discussion. Enough with ‘light’ discussions, related to the morning coffee or the weather. You should choose a more interesting subject, which allows him to express his opinion and feel that you’re interested in what he says. Offer him as much attention and importance so that he feels good talking to you, but without make him overestimate his own person, because you will be affected in the future by his personality crises.
2. The “come and get out” rule. It is one of the best ways to distract him and make him wish your presence next to him more and more. Don’t choke him, this is the worse thing you can do. Be next to him exactly when he needs and disappear when you feel that things got hot. He will be totally confused and he will miss you. When you notice that spark in his eyes, apply the ‘come and stay’ rule.
3. Don’t become too closed friends. It’s good to be friends, but don’t exceed the limit. You want to make him become your boyfriend and not your best friend, because it will be harder for you in the future to turn things in the right direction.
4. Compliment him. But don’t overdo, and anyway, try to say real things. He will feel important and appreciated. The male pride is stronger that you think.
5. Speak and shut up. If you have something interesting to say, don’t stop. If not, it’s better to shut up. Sometimes, the silence can be so seductive…
6. Be sure on yourself. You know what you want and this should motivate you to not lose your control. Think that maybe he has greater emotions than you. And still, he keeps that limit where the self confidence transforms into aggression. It’s not good to make him think that you’re that kind of woman who doesn’t need anything and anyone. A drop of vulnerability from you will wake his protective instinct about you.
7. Invite him to a coffee. Do you think he should do this, isn’t it? Why must you respect so many stereotypes? Make the first step and he won’t refuse you, you’ll see. Eventually, it’s about a simple invitation to a coffee, even if you have something else in your mind.
8. Eye contact. You can allow quite a lot to this chapter. Look at him and express in this way the things you can’t say in words. If he likes you, he will understand for sure.
9. Talk to him about you and ask for his advice. This will prove that you trust him and you trust the things he says and believes. He will feel very good and you will become closer friends.
10. The ‘come and stay’ rule. Very important: this rule applies only when you’re sure on your feelings. If you still doubt, it’s better to return to rule number 2: ‘come and get out’.
Whatever you do, it is very important to understand that’s not good to hurry things. A love story will never begin just like this, it all must be spontaneous.