Friends are forever, unless that friend is causing you emotional stress. If you’ve been feeling bogged down by a few of your friends recently, it’s time to say enough is enough. We’ve all had some friends who simply weren’t pulling their weight. Whether they’re making you feel bad, giving you the runaround or playing hard to get, bad friendships can be poisonous. If your friend meets one of the five descriptions below, it may be time to give them the heave-ho, and say “Thanks, but no thanks.”
1. The Flake: Sure, it’s fine if your friend is running late once in a while. Maybe her car broke down or her alarm clock didn’t go off, so she’s going to be late for lunch. Maybe she completely forgot about your meeting and promises to write the date on her calendar next time. But after a few free passes, it can be stressful and annoying to wait for a friend time and time again, only to have her cancel out on you. Worst of all, if your friend is making it clear that she’s canceling out on you for other people or friends, it’s a clear warning sign that you’re not an important part of her life, and it’s time to dump her.
2. The Liar: Did your best buddy tell you that she was going to be starring in her own new reality show, and for some reason it didn’t pan out? Has your friend ever told you a secret about another friend of yours that never made much sense? It’s not difficult to spot a liar, but it can be hard to get them out of your life. If your friend has no trouble lying about her day-to-day life or her other friends, she certainly has no problem making up stories about you. If you are caught in the middle of one too many little white lies, it may be time to tell your lying friend to hit the road.
3. The Critic: If you are a creative type, having supportive friendships should be important to you. The last thing you want is to be strutting your stuff down the street in a new outfit and have your friend point and laugh at you. “Look at those pants, what are you wearing?” Unfortunately, some people will try to cut their friends down for trying new and different things. Most likely, your friend is probably insecure about herself and is trying to bring you down to the level she is comfortable with. It’s unfair, however, to have a friend that is holding you down. Address the problem and tell your friend that it’s your way or the highway.
4. The Sad Sack: It’s okay for your friend to have a bad day once in a while, but if her bad moods are outweighing her good ones, your friendship may be poisonous. The best friendships exist when both partners are allowed to vent and share their problems, if all your friend is doing is complaining, it probably is not a healthy friendship for you to exist in. Ask your friend if she feels depressed and explain that you are worried about her. If she explains that she is depressed, get outside help for your friend as soon as possible. If she is not depressed and this is simply her sad-sack personality, get her out of your life.
5. The Stress Case: If it’s the day before a test or a big review at work, it’s perfectly healthy for your friend to be stressed out. But if your friend lays on every stress from losing the dog’s leash to her grandmother’s bunions, you may be smack dab in the middle of an unhealthy friendship. If you leave get-togethers with your buddy feeling more stressed out than when you got there, you need to address this issue with your friend. However, if her lifestyle is one of stress and frazzle, it’s best to steer clear of her life altogether.