How do you stop the recklessness of selfish, divorced parents and splitting couples, who afflict misery on their children, in an effort to gain a groundless advantage over a former mate? Are you raising a psychologically broken child to satisfy your own illogical passion to be the winner in a failed relationship battle?
Gather your foolhardy power by dividing property or selling off assets; but leave the children out of your conflict. Children need nurturing and support; they do not deserve you holding them captive for emotional ransom from an ex.
A child caught in the crossfire of a couple’s strife is nothing new. This dark disorder plays out in households across the world on a daily basis. It is not earth-shattering news by any means. Why has it gone on for so long without resolve, though? Who can break this intimidating behavior model for the children? Their parents can…that is who!
I have witnessed frightening conduct on the part of couples whose relationship has failed. The crime is not the disastrous relationship itself. The crime is the manner in which children end up helplessly dragged into the adult’s mêlée. There is simply no excuse on the parent’s part.
Some of the nasty conduct couple’s involve innocent kids in includes putting the other parent down, making them look bad in the child’s eyes, fighting, and airing all their differences of the botched relationship, in the presence of their children. The absolute worst offense in my opinion, however, is keeping a child from spending time with the other parent.
Many estranged couples take a child or children and disappear. They end up living life on the run and looking over their shoulder at every turn. Children are not your “property” and there are laws to protect them from this sad scenario. How does a parent rationalize that life on the run is acceptable and responsible behavior? What do you think this does to a child mentally?
This crazy behavior scares a child to death and does not comfort or support them. It is every child’s birthright, to expect solace and reinforcement from his or her parents, no matter what drama the parents are experiencing in their own life.
The worst part of these ignorant situations is the fact that many children end up blaming themselves for the adult’s difficulties. Grown-ups (supposedly) fighting and keeping a child from seeing the other parent, puzzle a child. How can a parent honestly think it is OK to let a child feel this way? It is not OK!
The saddest part for children, involuntarily stuck in the impasse between shattered couples, is time wasted and time lost, which they can never get back with a mother or a father. End your tattered relationship, but do not shatter your children’s lives any more than they already are. Children should be whole and happy…not broken and out of order.