For they who believe in God should not present themselves as weak. If they are not kind to self then how can they be kind to others? For if they are not even human to their own feelings then how can they be successful in realization of divinity. It is not wrong to be right. Neither it is a mistake to protect self from harm. Though it is incorrect to be selfish alone but it is not wrong to love self a little. For bible says that you are required to love your neighbor as yourself so if you love yourself very little then you will surely end up with little love for others.
Let us explain it in this way. There are two categories of people who won’t do certain things in life and they are as under:
- Weak people: A weak person will not do an act because he doesn’t have strength to do it. He doesn’t do because he just cannot do it.
- Principled person: A principled person will not do an act because he thinks it is incorrect to do it. He doesn’t do because he doesn’t want to do it.
Now there is always confusion in the society regarding the differentiation between weak and principled people. People think that a person who doesn’t take action to verbal rebukes is a weak person though in reality he may be a principled person. God wants us to be principled and not weak. For a weak person cannot defend himself at the most hurtful of all hours. However, a principled person can react if need arises. Now let us know where and when the reaction is required. Your colleague slaps you. The believer should think if he would have slapped my neighbor then what I would have done (explained, expressed, complained or taken action). If I am required to defend my neighbor at this hour then certainly I should do it for myself too. For I need to love myself equal to the extent I am required to love my neighbor.
Do you know why following of religion seems to be a pitfall for many? Because there are some followers of that religion who become so humble and kind that they in a way do not even care an inch for themselves. Do you think these people are doing good to Christianity? Will you like your own child to be a true Christian if these few Christians in an attempt to prove that they are good Christians will completely disregard their own selves? The people who readily allow themselves to be hurt and humiliated, disregarded and harmed sometimes do more to withdraw people from being religious than to attract them to Christ. No one will like to follow believes and faith of someone who is always a victim of verbal rebukes and emotional harms.