Folks seem to be surprised by the rise in dating and monogamy during the current Depression (yes, let’s call it what it is – a Depression). But there are many reasons for this phenomenon, many of them quite positive.
Dating is another way to relate to others and help share the stress. For many of those folks who may not have previously spent a lot of time with the same person, they are discovering that the quiet comfort of companionship and possible romance is a relaxing change from the anxious highs and lows of frequent partner changes. The rewards of the monogamy are more apparent when people share stressful situations or endure hardships together.
Sometimes unemployment itself leaves people with a lot more time on their hands, and substantially less money in their pockets. This can lead to spending more quality time in other pursuits, including family, relationships, and dating or building new relationships. Time that was devoted to career building and working late is now available for neglected areas of their lives, and this newfound life is a vast space to learn about and exploit.
The economy has given everyone a new icebreaker for conversation, a subject that everyone is touched by and can relate to, and everyone can sympathize with the misery.
In many cases, the return to the simple pleasures of life has turned out to be the best medicine for overstressed individuals. The joy of a walk in a garden or the woods, watching the birds at a feeder, hiking a rocky trail to a beautiful view – these are things that often are overlooked in the hustled world of making a living. As no two people see exactly the same way, these are adventures that can be shared with another person, which may enhance your appreciation of the journey. Even playing a spirited round of Monopoly or poker may show you something about yourself or someone else. Spending time with real people, face to face, sometimes heart to heart, is an experience that is becoming all but abandoned by electronic communicators, but has rewards that cannot be condensed to a few clicks.
Still, dating can serve only as a diversionary tactic for some. Those devoted to new conquests won’t change their ways, only their budgetary tactics. Every market has it’s opportunists, and while many find comfort in a familiar face, there will always be those who find it in an unfamiliar bed. So don’t rush into a pseudo-relationship now any more than in the past. There’s time to get to know each other, so why not spend it wisely?