All women know we’re not supposed to call men, at least not very often. For some reason though, when you know you’re not supposed to call men, you want to call them more. If you really want a great relationship with your guy, the best thing to do is not to call him – at least not more times than he calls you. But how do you stop yourself calling a guy, when you really, really want to? Follow these quick tips and you’ll quickly learn how not to call a guy. Plus, your relationship will probably get better with him too.
Call Your Friend Instead – The first thing to do when learning how not to call a guy is to call a friend instead. I have an agreement with several friends that, if I’m having a problem with a guy, I can call my friends at any time – day or night – and they can do the same with me. We’ve saved each other many a bigger problem with the men we’re dating just simply because we didn’t call them. For women, we worry, we create drama in our heads and we panic, so we call. For men, they’re not worrying, there’s no drama and they don’t panic so, when we do call, it just comes off as being needy and desperate. So, make an agreement with a girlfriend and call her instead – it’ll work out much better for you. Honest.
Get Busy – When I used to have a problem with my boyfriend and desperately wanted to call him, I’d get busy instead. I’d clean my house, organize my bookshelves, watch a movie, go for dinner with my friends, write an article, surf the internet – anything so I didn’t pick up the phone and call him. Usually he would then end up calling me before I’d feel the need to call him and, by that time, I’d already forgotten about the thing I desperately had to talk to him about. Getting busy does that to you. You’re too tired to bother.
Have a Makeover – One trick I learned really early on about how not to call him was to make sure I gave myself a makeover. Of course, you can go to a local spa and get a makeover there but, you can also give yourself a makeover at home. If I ever have problems with the guy I’m dating and really need to talk to him, instead I go to my local hairdresser and get a haircut. Then, I come home, give myself a manicure, a pedicure and a facial.
I take a shower using a lovely smelling body scrub, deep condition my hair, and another scrub on my face. Out of the shower, I make myself a latte, treat myself to some expensive chocolate and watch a movie on DVD. By the time my boyfriend finally calls, I’m feeling so beautiful I’m already wondering if I should start dating other men, because maybe I can do better than him!
Exercise – When you want to call your guy and know you shouldn’t, it often makes you feel bad about yourself. At these times, the best thing to do I’ve discovered is to exercise. I drag out the treadmill, shove a DVD into the DVD player and speed walk for at least an hour and then take a long shower afterwards. When I’m done, I’m tired but I’m feeling much better about myself and my body (exercising makes those endorphins kick in!), and I feel like I can do anything. Call the boyfriend? Who? In fact, it’s amazing how a little exercise can make the desperate need to call him go away.
Hang Out With Male Friends – When you really want to call your guy and know you shouldn’t, it can be a good exercise in learning about guys if you hang out with some male friends. Men have a different perspective on other men than your women friends do. Talking to another guy, most of the time, you’ll learn that the reason why you think you need to talk to your guy isn’t a good reason at all.
Hanging out with male friends, you’ll realize quickly that guys are actually quite easy and women just make them more difficult than they are. So go out for a beer with a bunch of male buddies and you’ll feel much better about your guy when you get back home.
The main thing to remember is, no matter how important it seems to be to you to call your guy, it’s usually a lot less important than you think it is. Women worry. Men don’t. Try to remember to just get busy and whatever problem you think you have with the man you’re dating will likely solve itself – without you needing to call him.