It happened – that one little indiscretion that could mean the end of your relationship. You feel horrible and terribly guilty for cheating, but you have to deal with it now. It’s not easy confronting infidelity in a relationship, but if you’re truly sorry and want forgiveness, here are some tips about how to ask for a second chance after cheating on your partner.
Ask for forgiveness
It sounds simple enough, but asking for forgiveness is merely the first step in asking your partner for a second chance. Let your partner know that you still have strong feelings for them and you believe in your relationship. It won’t be easy, but being sincere about your feelings of remorse is the initial step in this hard process.
Show them how much you still love them
This might be tricky because your partner may not want to see you or talk to you initially. But there are ways to still show them that you care for them deeply. To show them you want a second chance, try to do little things that remind them of your feelings. Send flowers, write a love note, send an email-all of these actions display your affection and sincere remorse. But don’t go overboard because you could be seen as desperate and needy.
You’ve betrayed your lover in the deepest way possible. How can you rebuild that trust? It won’t easy, but you can still make an effort to rebuild the trust that you lost from cheating on your partner. Talk to them and ask them how they feel and how you can begin to earn their trust back. This may be done in different ways like spending more time with each other or not partying so much with friends. No matter what it is, you will have to make an effort to show your partner that you can be trusted again.
There are many reasons why a person would commit infidelity. But it affects both parties and no one is the winner in this situation. It’s easy to try to place blame on the other person. But it’s important to not make accusations and try to justify your actions. Communicating in a rational manner helps the other person know that you’re trying to ask for a second chance. Talk about each other’s feelings and what led up to the infidelity. This could lead insight into your relationship and the direction you want to take it. This may even signify a reason to seek couples counseling.
Give your Partner Time and Space
In the end, your partner will need lots of time and space to think things over. Hopefully you would have gotten a chance to talk to them about your feelings of regret. Asking for a second chance is a step towards reconciliation, but trust has been broken. Time will be the only way you can see if that trust can be rebuilt. If your partner needs some alone time, give them their space and hope that they realize that you still have feelings for them.