The divorce rate is climbing everyday, and many couples are desperate to make their marriages work. Even if you are not married, you want to make your relationship last. We all fear at some point that our partners will cheat on us. We usually only think of cheating as a physical act, but it can also be an emotional act too. One of the first things that starts to wear on a relationship is emotional cheating. This is how you can avoid it.
You should know yourself. Know what your faults are. What makes you suddenly feel attracted to another person? You should try your best to avoid any situation where you may find yourself attracted to someone other then your partner. While the chemical reaction of attraction cannot be stopped, putting yourself in a situation that gives you the opportunity to act on those feelings is a place that you want to stay out of. These places can be anywhere, but defiantly stay away from anywhere that is known for ” picking up” singles. If you truly enjoy going to those places, then maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place. It could be that your partner is not right for your, or you may not be emotionally mature enough for a relationship. Look inside of yourself and take stock, and make sure you stay out of the places that you feel tempted in.
If you are having a conversation with someone, and you feel even the slightest bit attracted to them, make sure you keep it professional. Of course, we will meet people that are attractive in our day-to-day lives, that does not mean that we have to try to find out intimate details about them. You should keep your conversations on the task at hand. This is especially true when you work with someone that you are attracted to. A lot of sexual harassment suits have started off with well intended flirting. If things do go to far with someone at work, you could find yourself in a tight spot both personally and professionally. This is why it is best to keep your conversation to a polite minimum with those you work with who you’d normally be interested in.
Acknowledge the problem. If you find that you are beginning to cheat emotionally, it means that there is a problem in your relationship. You could be the problem, or it could be with your partner. Until you have taken the time to be blunt with yourself and try to find the answer for the question, “what’s wrong,” you will be unable to avoid emotional cheating. Many people look outside of their relationship because it is easier to find something new than it is to work at the old relationship.
Take time and focus on your partner. You need to focus on the person who you have committed yourself to. There is a reason that the two of you are together. After you have figured out what is going wrong in your relationship, you need to sit down with you partner and have an open and honest conversation. The truth is, the other person probably knows that something is wrong, but may be too afraid to bring it up. Find a romantic place, a place where you can focus on each other, take turns sharing your feeling and responding to each others needs. Make sure you listen to your partner, and be open to suggestions. This conversation is not about being angry with each other, it is about finding answers.
Get physical. Physical intimacy is a great way for both of you to rediscover each other. Once you have begun the road to recovery with your problems, and both of you have begun to work toward solving them, touch each other, hug and kiss. Physical touch will make you feel as close to each other as you possible can be, and will help build the bond between the two of you stronger.
Congratulations, you have just learned how to avoid being an emotional cheater.
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