Jealousy is never cute. Having a jealous boyfriend is less than cute. You may be wondering how to deal with a jealous boyfriend? What can you do stop the madness and really enjoy a loving secure relationship with your guy? Honestly, you can’t fix it, but you can help coax him along. We’ve got ten tips for surviving a jealous relationship.
Give Up Denial
Stop acting like nothing is happening. Being in denial over the situation isn’t how to deal with a jealous boyfriend. By saying nothing, doing nothing you are saying this behavior is okay. Stop denying there’s a problem. And don’t act like it’s flattering. He’s not complimenting you when he acts jealous. Quite the opposite actually!
Think and Decide
The next tip is to think and decide. Before you go any further in this relationship consider if it’s really worth moving ahead. If you decide to stay realize that it may take a substantial amount of time to heal for both of you. Behaviors like jealousy aren’t fixed over night. Are you willing to keep working on it? Is your partner?
Let’s Talk About It
The next step is to communicate with your jealous boyfriend. Talk openly about how his behavior makes you feel. If he won’t even talk about it, then you should say good bye! Tell him that his behavior isn’t funny and isn’t acceptable to you. Let him know he needs to change.
Evaluate Your Safety
After your chat you’ll get a pretty good picture of your safety. While some guys are jealous and violent others are just jealous. Which one is your guy? Be aware that jealousy is often a symptom of a greater problem. Are you safe? Make sure someone you love and trust, outside this relationship knows about your situation. Have a back up plan or escape plan ready just in case.
Uncover Your Partners Fears
Dealing with jealousy can be an ugly affair. Uncover your partners true fears and worries by asking him questions. Is he jealous because of a former bad relationship? Is he jealous because he has an irrational fear or worry? Get your boyfriend to open up to you.
If you’ve committed to helping heal this jealous relationship then you need to be available. You can’t not answer the phone because you need some space. This will only make your jealous boyfriend that much more suspicious. Don’t hide. Be available to talk when he needs to talk.
It can be tiresome but you’ll need to reaffirm the jealous boyfriend. Tell him regularly how you feel about him and express your commitment to the relationship. Reaffirming him will help him gain confidence in your future together.
Counseling and Therapy
Encourage your jealous boyfriend to go to counseling or take part in therapy. There are so many benefits from counseling. If he objects to a counselor encourage him to talk to a spiritual adviser like a pastor or priest about his problem.
Don’t Be Secretive
If you know your boyfriend is the jealous type don’t plan him a surprise party! Don’t be secretive. Hiding even small things will seem like big problems to the guy who struggles with jealousy.
If you’ve done all you can and can’t do anymore, then leave. There is nothing that says you have to stay. If you need to, set a time line for yourself. Chances are if he’s not becoming less jealous in six months he never will be. It’s okay to say goodbye.