Quite often women find themselves wishing their man would talk to them more. They seek both more quantity and more substance in the conversations they have with the person they generally consider the most important in their lives. It can be argued that men and women are just different and that women want or need more conversation than men. While this may or may not be true, quite often the real issue is that men and women generally have different ideas of what they find interesting topics of conversation. Whereas women quite often prefer to talk about feelings and relationship issues, men seem more comfortable talking about practical things such as what needs doing. This quite often leads to couples finding they have little to talk about other than whatever might have gone on during their days at work, which can become quite terse when the two find there is little interest of the goings on of people they don’t know. Don’t despair though, because there are ways to improve the quality and duration of conversation that goes on between couples. The five sensible ideas below on how to get your man to talk to you, can help most any woman get her man to talk to her.
1 – Find shared interests. This one can sound a lot easier than it is, but it’s not impossible. The best way to do this, is to try new things together. Quite often people find they enjoy things they thought they wouldn’t before experiencing it for themselves. Whether it’s signing up for a cooking class, taking hiking excursions or reading the classics out loud to one another, find an activity that you both enjoy. And that last part is key. Don’t expect your man to like the things you like, simply because you like and want to do them. If he doesn’t want to take ball room dancing, and you don’t want to take bow-hunting lessons, then find something that both of you like to do, and start doing more of that.
2 – Listen more. A lot of times people think the more they talk, the more response they’ll get. This isn’t true. If you want your man to talk more, then listen when he does speak. Not just to his voice, but to the words he’s saying. Though the topic might not interest you, the fact that you listen at all will cause him to want to say more; which might lead him to start talking about things that are a little more interesting. And be very careful to avoid falling into the trap of semi-listening, only to completely change the topic over to something you have on your mind when he pauses. That is one of the biggest conversation killers for men.
3 – Turn off the TV. Television has seriously damaged the art of conversation. Not only does it keep everyone focused on it, rather than one another, but it provides a shield from what is actually going on in life. By turning off the television, you’ll quite naturally have to converse more, if for no better reason than to fill the void.
4 – Shut up. Many men when asked why they don’t talk with their wives or girlfriends more, say that they feel they can’t get a word in edgewise. And in some cases this is true. Women have a way of saying what is on their mind when with people they care about and trust, whether the target seems eager to listen or not. If you want your man to talk to you more, than perhaps part of the answer may be for you to talk to him less.
5 – Let him talk on his terms. In life, in our society, women are expected to tell people they care about how they feel. Men on the other hand, are expected to keep their feelings to themselves. The end result is women tell their husbands or boyfriends everything they are feeling and men don’t reciprocate. The solution to this problem, if you’re the woman, is to allow your man the time and space to share what he’d like to share, when he wants, instead of when you note a change in his mood and instantly expect an explanation. In short, be patient
These five sensible ideas on how to get you man to talk to you can be read, used and modified by most any woman who has a man in her life that doesn’t talk to her as much as she’d like. If you’re someone in such a situation, I hope these ideas help. Good luck.