Let’s face it, we live in a society that judges women unmercifully on the way they look. We compare and contrast. We talk as if a woman’s beauty is all only skin deep. As if it’s all about how pretty she is, or if her body is good enough. All this has caused most women to feel insecure about their looks, and their bodies. Are they too fat, or too thin. Are their breasts too big or too small; or are they the right shape. Do they have stretch marks, or scars, or other blemishes. It’s enough to cause most any woman to want to hide away their naked selves even when with an intimate partner. This can, quite obviously, have a negative impact on relationships, and so, it might be wise to consider how you, the other person in the relationship, can help your girl to not feel self-conscious when she is naked in your presence.
1 – Compliment her. One of the most important things you can do is compliment her. Tell her the things you like about how she looks. This usually works best when she’s fully dressed and knows you’re not trying to get something from her. Tell her if you think she looks cute, or beautiful. Tell her how she makes you feel. Tell her every single positive thing that comes into your head, especially things she might not have noticed or considered.
2 -Behave yourself. Never, ever point out anything you find to be a flaw. Especially if you’re angry. Those remarks will be there in her mind every time she sees you looking at her. Also, be respectful of her boundaries. Don’t bust in on her while she’s on the toilet. Get out of her way when she’s dressing. Don’t share comments about her body with friends. Do give her room and the space she needs to be the person she wants to be. Also, don’t be obvious about the things you don’t particularly care for. She’ll notice if you never touch her in certain places, or look away when those parts come into view. Be kind. Be forgiving. Let her be human.
3 – Make it natural. You don’t have to grab some part of her every time you see her naked. Or stare. If it’s a sexual situation, of course, it’s okay, and probably appreciated, but grabbing and pawing at her every time she shows a little skin can get on a girl’s nerves. Allow her to show you what she wants, when she wants. Never beg. Never threaten. Act as if it’s the most natural thing in the world for her to be naked in your presence. And try to remember, it doesn’t always have to lead to sex.
4 – Give her privacy. Though she may like to be admired in the shower at times, or watched while she changes, it’s usually better if you let her choose when to show her body to you. Taking it upon yourself, whether for your own gratification, or to show her how much you enjoy seeing her naked, usually only causes a woman to feel as if you don’t respect her privacy.
5 – Reward and encourage her. If she’s the type of girl who always changes in the bathroom, or hides under the covers, or insists the lights be out during intimacy, encourage her, but don’t push. Take small steps. Show her you like what you see by smiling. Tell her in your own words what you like. If she has certain things she’s self-conscience about, show her you really, truly do like those things. Kiss her stretch marks, or brag out loud about what a great butt she has. Tell her how soft her skin feels against your fingers. Anything you can think of to demonstrate that your words are truly how you feel. And as she opens up to you, reward her with compliments, and then do something she thinks is fun.
These five rules for helping your girl feel good naked, can help your girl to feel comfortable being naked around you. This in turn can help the two of you become closer, more loving and intimate. All things that help people be happier in their relationships.