I am a pro-choice/pro-lifer. Sounds like a contradiction, doesn’t it?
In this day and age, being pro-choice is akin to being an abortion lover. Truly, does anyone really LOVE abortion? Do the women who face this heart wrenching decision make it lightly? I don’t think so.
Likewise, do pro-lifers advocate for life on all levels? Some do and some don’t. Did James Kopp, the man who gunned down abortion doctor, George Tiler, this week advocate for life on all levels? Apparently not.
Yes, Kopp was a radical pro-lifer. Most pro-lifers are not that radical, just as most doctors do not do late term abortions as the gunned down doctor did. These were two radical men on opposite sides of the issue.
What bothers me the most, though…are those pro-lifers who are not so radical, but still condone what the man did who murdered the doctor. “He got what he deserved”. “He knew he was a target…oh well”. “Killing him was the lesser of the two evils”. Such mentality is scary to me.
I’m a pro-choice /pro-lifer. I believe in life. I hate abortion. But I believe with all of my heart it is a woman’s choice and a decision she must make on her own. If she is to be accountable to anyone, it should be to God.
Being pro-life needs to go far beyond the abortion debate. Being pro-life should mean advocating for better sex education, educating young men and women on how to be good and responsible parents, opening our hearts to becoming adoptive parents, speaking out against abuse and neglect.
I have worked with foster children for many years. The children I have worked with have come from circumstances that are hard for anyone to imagine. Imagine a child who was so hungry because his parents left him alone for 3 days that he was eating cockroaches and cigarette butts off the floor. Imagine a child whose own mother sold her to a pedophile for some crack cocaine. Imagine children who are beaten, sexually abused and neglected beyond your worst imaginings. Imagine children who are passed from one foster care home to another. This is what happens to unwanted children.
Even in the maternity home I now work in, the clients there are all products of the foster care system. Every single one of them. They were passed around from foster home to foster home as children. Now they are pregnant…most of them homeless with no way to care for a child. Some of the women end up giving birth only to have their babies placed immediately in foster care because they are unable to care for the child. The cycle continues on.
Yes, it would be nice if every parent who did not want her child or could not take care of her child opted for adoption. Sadly, that is not the reality.
Do all children have a right to live? Yes. Do they have a right NOT to be abused and neglected? Yes.
The pro-life part of me used to march in rallies and carry signs with pictures of aborted babies…all trying to shock pregnant women into giving birth to their child. I no longer march. I believe my time is better spent advocating for the unborn on a different level…educating young people, advocating for adoption, speaking out against abuse and neglect.
No matter what side of the abortion issue you are on, might I suggest that it is time to come together on some level and agree to what is in the best interest of children everywhere. Believing in a cause is great. But when being right becomes more important than cause itself…something needs to change.