That saying has a foundation in what we’ve been exploring the last few weeks. When our focus is on why things aren’t the way we believe they should be, we’re empowering our negative beliefs through association with them. Something can begin as a desire, a feeling in the gut; if we add our thoughts, we’ve given it even more power. If we take it further, integrating it deeply enough to begin feeling it’s actually part of our life, like a tightness in the chest, bad dreams, a suppressed immune response, the problem goes beyond “self” and becomes part of outer life.
Science has instruments sophisticated enough to measure energy produced by the human body. Most of us think of the brain as the only part capable of emitting thoughts and energy. Science has proven that incorrect. The heart emits energy that can be transmitted, and then recorded, through walls and at distances of up to two miles. It’s strongly suspected that heart energy can travel distances far greater than science has instruments capable of documenting. The heart is the third necessary part in changing our lives.
At sometime in our lives, we’ve been thinking about someone and feel a need to call them or stop by for a visit. We pick up the phone and instead of a dial tone, we hear the voice of the person we intended to call. Or, we’re preparing to go visit and they show up at the door. Coincidence? When we learn how to be in control of our lives, we’ll be surprised how often those supposed coincidences really do happen. Desire originates in the solar plexus, thought is generated in the brain and feeling comes from the heart. The question is, how do we integrate all three?
I can only relate how boys do the following, you girls will have to fill in what works for you. I remember when I was young and wanted something really badly. I had the emotion, the desire, and then I thought about it. Next, if it hadn’t manifested itself in my life, and I didn’t wait long because being a kid I was impatient, I visualized it and felt what it was like to ride it, pedal it or drive it. I moved like I thought it would and if it was something that made noise, I made the sounds I thought it would. If I persisted, whatever it was usually became reality.
When I grew older, I wanted to race cars. That took front and center and, even though it didn’t happen as quickly as I’d have liked, (patience still isn’t my long suit) I drove race cars professionally for eleven years. I envisioned sailing, remarrying someone who has the same life visions I do, writing and doing photography. All of those things happened, and for the best. Our travels last summer, and those lying ahead this year, all started out as desires, then became thoughts and later the feelings of how they would be. Kayaking is one of my favorite things to do. Last year there were too many things that took precedence, and too little room in the car to pack everything. This year the kayak is clean and prepared and I know, because I can feel it, a kayak adventure is in store. Other adventures and learning experiences also await, because we’ve taken all three steps.
Each of us is different, and maybe praying or meditating is more productive for some than going vvrroom, vvrroom. The point is, we have to find the right process and completely integrate what we want into our lives. I’m not talking about living in La La Land and expecting someone else to provide for us. That’s not being part of the process. In order to appreciate what we have and where we’re going in life, we have to be involved and involved more than passively. Whatever it is, it has to become part of our lives.
Going from being controlled to being in control, can be a long process. In cases of long term commitments, we need to spend more time in the second part of the three stages. We need to think about how those decisions will impact our lives over the long-term. Six years of car payments, twenty-four years before getting our kids out of school and thirty years of mortgage payments are a long time. We can walk away from a mortgage or a car payment, but kids and other humans are a different situation. We can still make changes by integrating desire, thought and feeling but we have to honor our human related commitments.
If gloom and doom is a major factor in our lives, we have to expect the rest of our lives to reflect that. If horror, war, blood and guts movies or bad news adrenalize us, they’ve become part of our lives and we can expect our lives to mirror them back to us. What we put out, we get back. To fix a problem, we have to use different methods and thoughts than those that created it.