Sex in and of itself is a hard topic for most people to approach. If any of us have urinary incontinence, that is something that we want to keep to ourselves, literally. Therefore, the idea, whether you are a man or woman, of having urinary incontinence during sex is in the nightmare category. It is more likely to occur if you are a woman.
Those women who suffer from urinary incontinence are more likely to have an episode when having sex simply because sex puts more pressure on the abdomen. Unfortunately because of this many women with the problem of urinary incontinence shy away from sex because they feel “dirty” and they don’t feel attractive or romantic.
Women who have urinary incontinence have just as much sex and enjoy it just as much physically but they also worry at times all the way through it.
Further, most women know when during sex they will leak but that is different from urge leakage that is unpredictable and often occurs during orgasm.
Urge incontinence is leakage that occurs because of an uncontrollable need to urinate.
It doesn’t really matter about the technical aspect of the condition. The problem is that it causes embarrassment and if you think about it, it is easy to understand why.
What Are Ways to Stop or Minimize “Leakage Events?”
If you suffer from urinary incontinence there are a number of ways you can help yourself from experiencing leakage during sex.
First limit water intake before sex. The less water, the less of a potential problem.
Practice Kegal exercises on a regular basis. As the reference material says, “Women who do Kegal exercises on a regular basis have less leakage.”
Pick your sexual position carefully.
The “Missionary Position” creates a lot of pressure on the abdomen so there is more leakage. A position with the woman on top is the best.
A woman should talk to her doctor. They may be able to help with some ideas for stopgap measures and they also may be able to refer her to a specialist in that field.
One of the smartest things a woman can do is take a negative and make it a positive. Talk with your partner. Give them a chance to “give” and be understanding.
Also, don’t overlook the humor in the situation.
Often in relationships we forget, while we’re trying to act “perfect” in front of our partner how much intimacy and romance can be achieved by simply sharing a problem instead of trying to hide it.
“Urinary Incontinence and Your Sex Life,” Article, “Everyday Health,” By Dennis Thompson, Jr.
Medical Review by Kevin O. Hwang, M.D., MPH
Urge Incontinence, WebMD