The loss of autonomy or independence is considered to be one of the greatest fears gripping most seniors. They may love their children and grandchildren. Living with them or having them make all of their important decisions is a different matter. Even having their adult children too knowledgeable about their personal business and finances is extremely difficult to take. However, aging parents often need someone close by who can meet their needs and help them out from time to time. The trick is to be able to do this without having the parent feel like someone has invaded their territory.
Seniors fight against the diminished abilities and failing health that comes with age.
A people move into their elder years, their bodies become more frail in many ways. Bones become brittle. Their vital organs ma start to grow weak and show signs of impending failure. Their minds are not always as sharp as when they were younger. These ailments will conspire together to reduce the ability of seniors to meet their daily needs.
Children need to monitor aging parents to see when they may start to need help and protection.
Elders may need to be protected from hurting themselves. Some of these decisions can become quite painful for parent and child. Even cooking a meal can become an ordeal. The senior may be in danger of causing a house fire or forget to make sure that the oven or burner lit and let escaping gas fill up the house. If the parent has started to have severe memory problems, it is possible to begin to cook something and let it burn up by walking off and forgetting it is on the stove.
Vision can keep some seniors from being able to drive, shop, or care for themselves in a variety of ways.
As their children begin to take over some of these duties, the sense of losing their independence can become quite strong. Grocery shopping may have to become an offer to run to the store to pick up a few things that the parent is running out of in the kitchen. Taking over the lion’s share of the driving before the car keys are surrendered can be done by making outings a time to be together for shopping, a meal, and maybe a stop by the doctor’s office.
Arrange for neighbors to keep an eye on senior parents without informing them.
If your parents have trusted long-term neighbors, as them to keep an eye on your folks. Neighbors already see far more than people prefer. Take advantage of their nosey tendencies to have them watch your parents from time to time. This neighbor can make sure that the paper is picked up from the yard and the mail is collected. This will let you know that your parents have not had a life-threatening injury or illness.
Allow your parent to drive as long as there is little chance of harming others.
It is always hard to know when to take the car keys. You always hope that your parents will come and surrender them voluntarily. It is important to monitor this situation. Failing eyesight, reflexes, and mental capacity can all work to render your parent unable to safely drive a car. It is impossible to do this discreetly unless the suggestion comes from the parent. It almost never does.