People Magazine is breaking the news that Rihanna and Chris Brown have gotten back together and are spending time together at P.Diddy’s Miami “Star Island”, despite the New York Daily News having released pictures yesterday of Rihanna in Punta Mita, Mexico.
Is Rihanna crazy?
I don’t know of a single woman-beater who has not repeated their behavior. Was Chris Brown’s fake two weeks in “anger management” enough to fix the defect of character that allowed him to beat the holy-hell out of his girlfriend? I doubt it. Will it happen again? Of course. Look at Ike Turner and Tina Turner–that cylce of violence and abuse lasted for how long, 20 years? Is that what Rihanna wants?
It is possible that the money and fame and fortune of this hip-hop power couple was too much to throw away, but the truth is, Chris Brown needs Rihanna (and a public reconcilliation) more than Rihanna needs him. Rihanna is a budding superstar who has had a Billboard chart topper. Chris Brown has not had an individual performance break the top 5. Rihanna is the victim, Chris Brown the violent offender.
Ironically, from the very beginning, there were many in the “community” that were looking to place blame on Rihanna, asking, “What did she do to provoke him?”. Is this what this country has come down to? We don’t have any moral standards anymore. Is is okay all of a sudden to beat women? Where I come from it is a far worse crime to raise your hand to a woman than fight a dog–lightyears worse, in fact.
Rihanna should have used this situation to lead by example for all the females out there who may now or in the future find themselves in abusive relationships. GET AWAY! Use whatever means necessary and escape the insanity, escape the cycle of violence by any means possible. Children that grow up in abuse households get imprinted with the images of the behavior and run the risk of continuing that pattern in their own adult life. In fact, that was part of Chris Brown’s “excuse” for what happened.
Does she have beaten dog syndrome–does she have the feeling that somehow she is to “blame” for what happened, that if she had done something differently then it would not have happened?
When the violence erupts on Rihanna again, when it escalates, when she finds that she is trapped deeper emotionally and physically, she may also find that it is too late to save herself.
People Magazine, Rihanna and Chris Brown Are Back Together, by Elizabeth Leonard