One can really get sick of sexual relations for numerous reasons. Sex is not something that is always fun and sometimes ones sexual expectations may be shot down with an intimacy that has lost its flair.
Sometimes sexual relations are the last matter on one’s mind after a long day or perhaps due to hormone imbalances or any number of conditions.There are solutions for people who need new ways in which to create excitement for the old ways of enjoying sex.
Ten reasons why the spark can go out in sexual relationships and potential ways to get it back.
*Sex starts in the brain. If one does not have the right mind-set, sexual relations may not be worthy. Desire may not be there, owed to what the mind has absorbed the past day. For example, if a person had disagreements half the day, that can pull him apart from his sex partner.
>What is needed here is for one to take care of day residue by writing, bathing, exercise, candlelight, or what one wishes. Take twenty minutes alone and it will refresh, making a person more open to sensual adult touch.
*Weight gain or loss. One can be hindered if he believes he does not look appealing to his lover because of his appearance in fat or in skin and bones.
>Perhaps a good idea for this spark slayer is to wear some clothing during sexual relations, such as a top or maybe a lacy panty. It can boost trust with a partner. Flab can be removed, but lots of daily spot exercise is the answer.
>One way that helps for obesity or skinniness is have the lover touch ones body on purpose, softly feeling every part. This seems an intimate matter that can bring acceptance, enabling relaxation for both. Use candlelight to illuminate and scented oils to make sensual smells that will tingle your senses.
>Additional ways that help a person are working on self esteem, talking to ones partner, and creating an inner child connection within oneself.
*Drug use, alcohol included, can dull ones senses, create numbness, and ruin the entire sexual relations fast. Also, medication or other conditions can and do cause absence of desire for sexual relations.
>Alcohol is a depressant. Using it will make one bloated and urination is needed more which can be a turn off. Also, it may enhance sex if only a little is drank prior to sex, but it will bring one way down if one drinks more than one or two.
>Smoking can bring on terrible smell, coughing, and wheezing, interfering with sexual relations. Smoke is a real turn off.
*Unfaithfulness can abruptly overwhelm a sexual relationship. If one decides to stay together, working through the issue, there could be resentment, anger, jealousy, hurt, etc to work with. Guilt and grief is what comes about. Trust is not good, tension can develop, and whatever one has began in bed with his partner turns both partners off.
>Infidelity is a top cause of break up in sexual relationships, and the best way around this is to avoid it. Get help before something happens and be honest with your sexual partner. Do not act out on any notions and all will be well.
*Flashbacks, horrible sexual experiences and abuse can tear apart sexual intimacy with ones lover. Mental images of one may bring grief to a persons sexual partner in the here and now. Turn offs are instant with this one usually. In addition, tastes, smells, sounds and body memories all can immediately turn the partner off and one will shut down at this point from sexual relations.
>Seek counseling with this. Free materials and therapy are available if one can not financially afford it. Talk to ones partner, but know he cannot help one til one helps himself. Ones sexual relationship may depend upon it.
*Illness, surgery, pain, a disability, or pregnancy/ motherhood can change the way one feels toward sex. Sexual relations cannot take place, but maybe cuddling will do.
> Perhaps patience and waiting til one is well or healed is a good way to deal with this. As far as pregnancy goes, one can look at the fact no birth control has to be used. Also, using different positions now would be appropriate. Partners can always take care of each others needs.
*Distress and money troubles. This is a common reason why the spark goes out of sexual relationships. Stress is sometimes positive, but when it is negative stress, it becomes distress.
> When people have money issues, they often keep quiet about it to stave off tension, but every couple who wants to have an everlasting sexual relationship needs to have serious talks about finances. Just leave it out of the sexual part of the relationship. Choose a specific time to negotiate money matters. Focus on relaxing with the partner.
*Routine of a sexual relationship is nice to trust, but if one and his partner have been together a long time, they can get bored with a hum drum routine.
>Write on paper what one wants to do, have done, or wants for both. Put crumbled papers of choices into a hat and each one gets to pick one for the other one. Be sure to talk about what kind of fantasies can be used, any aids such as oil, massage, wax, etc., ahead of time.
>Make a date for ones sexual relations, picking time and place. Try new stuff, opening any communication gaps between partners. Make needs known in ones sexual relationship. Role play can be helpful and fun.
* No time for communication is sure to bring on problems with getting sparks to fly for sexual relations. Also, overworking can dull ones sensitivity levels through weariness.
>Couples in sexual relationships must be able to communicate with one another, lest they end up farther apart. Mates had better be open to talk about sex, and their respective fantasies, to nullify sexual relationship problems.
*Children in the house when one is trying to make time for his partner. Some couples delay sex until the kids are gone or asleep. Knowing that kids can hear, interrupt, or possibly see, partners allow this to come between the sexual relationship with ones partner.
>Get a sitter to watch the kids. Ask a friend or grandparent to keep the kids overnight. Stay overnight under the stars or in a motel.The main point is to take time to know the partner, keeping the romance and sexual relationship alive.
>Don’t fear! Partners having sexual relations with each another need to be naturalistic about what is in his fantasies, in his visual images of the mind. What does he desire? One can share it for the ultimate turn on to happen.
Can one provide this in a sexual relationship for a partner? The answer is yes, sexual relations can be very exciting! Just share with the partner you are with now, and let go. Relax.