In logic, most people understand a healthy relationship requires balance, a 50/50 partnership whereby all are beneficial parties. It is an understatement to say that every human being has an undisputable right to love…and be loved. People connect with the hopes of having their needs met in a mutually caring, affectionate, and loving relationship. But at some point, it becomes toxic, draining both you and your loved one of all energy and focus. Eventually the once felt affection turns into obsession and desire turns into need. After long, the individuals within the relationship recognize neither themselves nor their love one. First, you must be able to distinguish the key characteristics of a dysfunctional relationship in order to determine your next move. TO KNOW IS POWER.
A dysfunctional relationship is one, which fails to provide the necessary emotional support and balance for both involved; most prevalent is co-dependency. Co-dependent relationships are most common where addiction or history of childhood trauma is present in one or both of the parties. The individual take on either the role of the taker or the caretaker. The taker is a self-centered, controlling narcissistic who places the responsibility of his happiness solely on the caretaker, using both aggressive and passive-aggressive means. The caretaker acts as the selfless martyr in the relationship and is usually left feeling angry, trapped, unloved, and unappreciated.
A dysfunctional relationship can be with….
• A parent
• A friend
• A boss
• A coworker
• Family members
Ask yourself these questions.
Do you or your mate…
…spend more time inflicting emotional and spiritual pain than you do loving and supporting one another?
…behave in a demeaning and abusive manner?
…constantly live on an emotional roller coaster primarily due to issues of substance abuse and or a psychological disorder?
…feel unworthy of the other person’s attention and must constantly live up to their expectations?
…feel inferior or superior to the other party?
…feel trapped and hopeless?
…needs and desires supersedes your own?
…threaten to commit suicide if the relationship ends?
If you’ve answered yes to two or more of these questions, you are in a dysfunctional relationship.
What’s next? Do you call it quits or try to salvage the connection? First, seek professional help. A trained mental health professional will guide you towards resources that will help you make better decisions about your life going forward. There are tons of online support groups and website available for those seeking to get out of a toxic, dysfunctional relationship. You can also search out agencies in your immediate area that provides psychological treatment, also, your local church may be of some assistance. Making steps towards healing can be a long and difficult process. The first step is to forgive yourself and take personal responsibility for the situation. After achieving that difficult task , you’ll be ready to start the long process of rebuilding your life….one day at a time.
Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group
An Online Support Community For Abuse Survivors
Online Domestic Violence Support Group