Quite often first dates wind up being awkward affairs due to people finding it difficult to figure out what to talk about. When you combine that with first-date jitters, what happens is people wind up talking about things that might not be of interest to the other, or wandering into inappropriate subject areas or worse, falling into long stretches of awkward silence. The list below describes ten things to talk about on a first date that are appropriate, interesting and safe.
1 – You & them. It’s almost always a good idea to talk about yourself, so long as you allow them to talk about themselves as well. Tell them a little bit about where you are in life, a little of your past, and where you hope to be in the future.
2 – Your families and friends. It’s also good to talk about your family and friends, more so to give them an idea of how you came to be the person sitting before them today, then stories about people they have never met.
3 – Your jobs. Talking about your job is usually pretty safe, so long as you’re neither too shy with details nor too windy with background.
4 – Favorite pastimes. Hobbies, pets, passions etc. Talk about the things you like, and/or the things you like to do. This is the part of the conversation where you’ll hopefully find some things in common with the other person.
5 – The thing that caused you to meet. It’s always fun to relate the path you both took in meeting one another. It’s also a good way to give a bit of a window into your lives, and to see how the other operates out there in the world.
6 – Something you notice about the other person. This one requires a bit of tact, because commenting on something you notice about another person can trigger unexpected emotions. For example there once was a young man who commented to a young woman on her lovely southern accent, only to discover she’d been trying for years to overcome the thing. Try to keep any observations positive and innocent; mentioning a bit of jewelry you like perhaps, or a flattering hairstyle.
7 – Your immediate environment. Though it may seem trite, talking about your immediate surroundings can be quite fun, especially if you make a game of it. For example you can make up a fake bio for your waiter, or if you’re out and about, you can tell the other to close their eyes and you describe everything you see. There are lots of things to talk about in the world surrounding you, all you need to do is look.
8 – Anecdotes. Prepare one or more ahead of time. Try to come up with something that will not only be interesting but will say something about who you are and how you see life in general.
9 – The town or local area. Talk about how you came to live where you do, ask how they did the same. Talk about things that have happened to you, and ask questions of your date in the same vein. You may find you have common areas or places you both frequent.
10 – Likes and dislikes. List ’em off. This can actually be fun. Just list off every single thing you can think of you like, or love, then let them do the same. Then do it for all the things you don’t like, or despise. Or take turns. Make it interplay. Make it fun. Or maybe even funny.
The above list of ten things to talk about on a first date can be used by practically anyone in the dating pool. These ideas can generally be expanded to fit your own life and personality. If you are someone likely to be out on a first date anytime soon, I hope this list will help and I wish you the best of luck too.