I’ve figured it out…the incredible appeal of shows like The Bachelor and others. We like to dictate what others should do…and these shows let us “be there” without taking the risk ourselves of going under a microscope in front of millions of people ourselves.
So when Jason Mesnick changed his mind last night because of things changing after the cameras stopped rolling the nasty comments come out in droves.How much do we really know about the guy or the relationships there? It’s entertainment. Yet despite that, and despite what OUR choices might be we – the public – have venting season on the man and the women. Has 99.5% of the population met him? Spent any time with him? How do we then know what *really* happened – or didn’t happen – when the cameras stopped rolling? Remember in a week’s worth of filming it’s cut to an hour or so of footage so viewers, truly, are seeing only part of what happens.
Yet we sit in our living rooms and cuss the decision that someone else made on their feelings and their family’s interest for whatever reason based on their perspective. The same thing is done on other reality shows, from “True Beauty” to “Dancing With The Stars” to a host of others. It’s the ultimate “butt in your neighbor’s business”.
It’s the chance to be the nosy neighbor who criticizes everything from the clothes to the housekeeping to how long the grass is. It’s the chance to feel entitled to dictate to others our own standards or look down our nose saying “I’D never do that!!” It’s a chance to get swept away in the fantasy of romance and the cameras and other things.
OK so here’s a thought without assessing any blame. In the course of eight weeks there’s a whirlwind romance with multiple women, competing for the same guy. There’s romantic beaches and trips to New Zealand and boating with spectacular sunsets. There’s roses and jewelry and a very not real way of living, without going to work without dealing with the “stuff” of real life.
So after the choice is made…a choice difficult from appearances and we all have difficult choices…when the expensive stuff goes away you’re left with – real reality. The competition is over. The warm fuzzies go away and it’s relying on what is really there vs what was thought to be there.
Reality tv is the ultimate in having a say in other people’s lives. We don’t want to just watch we want to participate and direct it. The continued popularity of American Idol, despite some of the horrid “singers” that are found that make dogs howl in sympathy, feeds that because the ability to vote has a say in it.
If reality tv cameras came to your home how would your family hold up? How would your life be perceived by the masses? A lot of that depends on what tape was and was not used, but overall I suspect for most the answer is – not very well! Especially if there was any editing involved!
We all have nosy neighbors – or are one!