Some women think jealousy is cute, nice or some other pleasant words. This concern that Jonathan had, nearly cost Margie the man she loved and she did not even know it was the culprit. Margie was alarmed at this new development. Immediate attention to construct a safety net was needed and soon. First of all she needed to know how to go about such a building project. The next day, when Jonathan called, she was awake enough to begin her plan. In detail, she told all that was in her heart once again. She thought maybe the words had to be said again to make an impact, so the relationship had a renewal of a good and solid foundation. Margie also needed to know that the investment of herself would be protected also. As the phone conversation began, Jonathan seemed to be intently , listening. Margie was 100% his. She needed to know Jonathan was as sincere as she was also. She said she was not seeing anyone else, not on a dating site, emailing, phone conversing or interested in anyone but Jonathan. She then asked if that was something he was glad about and he said yes. Margie then asked if he could say those things back to her too. He said , “I guess I could remove myself from the dating site.” Margie said she would be happy if that was something he wanted to do. He then added that at that time he could say ditto to all she said to him.
Love seemed to conquer all the ills of the ailment of this relationship. Even though this was done on the phone, Margie felt strides were made for the better, for sure.
More than a week went by with continued sharing and wonderful phone conversations. Personal obligations with one sick cat and another going to Heaven, shortly, kept Margie from traveling to Jonathan’s house. Jonathan did not offer to travel due to Rosey, his dog, needing constant treatment for a severe injury to her paw. Daily, Margie would ask about Rosey’s progress, while Jonathan did not express any concern and did not ask about Margie’s cats.
Becky, Margie’s daughter was waiting for an MRI to be read by her surgeon to proceed with mandatory surgery , anytime now. Becky was going to let her mother know if she in fact, wanted her to be with her. Margie told Jonathan she might go out of town to help her daughter through and after the surgical procedure. When Jonathan was told about the impending surgery and Margie’s almost definite departure, Jonathan reminded Margie that Becky had a husband who could take care of his wife without her going there. This was the same daughter who came to meet Jonathan more than a year ago. The restaurant episode pin pointed Jonathan’s actions then, which were a stark and obvious lack of caring for anything Margie cared about. Margie’s book of excuses was nearly on its last pages with the events of her daughter and her pets being handled by Jonathan as he did. Margie tried to focus on the new trust with the man she loved rather than his concealed understanding for the activities that were waiting for Margie.
Margie”s detective work was not rusty yet. She went on the dating site where Jonathan had posted his profile and was amazed to see he was still a featured member after 10 days of their conversation. She never asked him about the dating site from the time they had talked about it on the phone the morning Margie let her heart be completely venerable/
Becky called and confirmed she wanted her mother to fly to be with her the day of surgery and stay as long as she could. Now another 11 days had passed from when Margie last checked the Internet dating site, so she looked again. Tears welled up, along with a lump in Margie’s throat when she saw he was still a full featured member. A full 3 Weeks hand not changed anything for Jonathan and yet turned Margie’s world upside down.
Margie sent a mass email to her entire address book stating she was going to be gone for a week. Jonathan was included in that announcement. If he called while she was away for 10 days, he did not leave a message. No emails were sent after Jonathan received that one from Margie. No emails were received by Margie. Her knight drifted into the future without her and this time is was her fault.
When people do the same thing and expect a different outcome that is called insanity. Neither of these two people were insane. Margie wanted something that was impossible from Jonathan in his narcissistic life. The final determination by both was to live separate lives and not communicate.