Do you ever wonder why you attract the wrong type of guy, such as the nerd, the nice guy, or even the unkempt ones? Is it your attitude, appearance, intellect, or even mannerisms? As a guy I have seen it all; I have seen multiple fails with women trying too hard, not trying hard enough, poor taste in clothing, and even conversational topics. This article will look at what works and what doesn’t work on a first date from a guy perspective. These 5 common mistakes will never get you a second date, or if it does it will not be with the right guy. The tone of this piece is harsh, but the reason I keep it harsh is so that the message is completely clear. Don’t settle, get exactly what you deserve! These tips go both ways, men do the same things, this may be a good read for both genders if you want a second date.
1. Unkempt Mindy
Women who look like they have not showered in days, or look like they just got back from a party and threw new clothes on to see you is a total turnoff. Guy’s want a woman who knows how to dress and look her best on a first date; you never get to make a second first impression. When you are in the relationship phase you do not have to look your best all the time, but during dating it is worth taking that extra 30 minutes to look top notch. We notice it and will compliment it!
2. Sensitive and broken Sally
Men don’t want to hear about all your past relationships unless we ask; the last thing men want is to picture you in the throes of passion with a bunch of other lovers! This type of girl will over indulge about her past, and feel the need to tell you how much she is still hurting. Obviously if you are still hurting or are not over your past relationships then you should not be dating!
3. Critical Jessica
I understand I may not have the best taste in a lot of different things, and I know I am not perfect, but I do not need to hear this on a first date. The critical Jessica will always try to one up you on everything; men get it, your successful, but we are not on this first date to be judged this harshly. Dates are more of a “get to know you” session than a critique session; we are not in a relationship so why should I have to put up with this? If a girl or women is already criticizing you after one date just imagine what the future holds?
4. One night stand turned relationship Meg
Unless a guy tells you that the one night stand may turn into a relationship you should not pursue it. I can’t even describe how bad I feel when a girl takes a hookup as “I want more”; I would have specifically said I wanted more before the hookup. If a guy is upfront about the one night stand then do not pursue it further unless he does! If a guy wanted more he would not have had a one night stand, he would have waited for a monogamous relationship.
5. Uninterested Andrea
All men want to hear about your life story and all your accomplishments, but we would expect our date to also want to hold the conversation. Women make the mistake of seeming uninterested during the conversation or one ended and then expect more afterwards! More than anything men look for a women who knows what to say and how to reciprocate a conversation. Before looks and social status men look for someone they can really connect with on an emotional level. If we connect with you and open up chances are you will have a second, third, and fourth date. Everyone gets nervous on a first date, but unless the conversation is going both ways do not expect a second. We don’t care about the conversation topic as long as it is mutually interesting, so try to avoid any gossip or talk about your best friend’s relationship. We don’t care, and it makes for a very boring date.