It happens when you least expect it. You’re out with friends perhaps; or at the store alone. Or maybe you’re simply walking down the street. Regardless of how, there it is, staring you in the face. Someone you know is cheating on their spouse or significant other. What do you do? The five excellent tips below on what to do if you see someone you know cheating on their spouse care help.
1 – Get your facts straight. The first thing is to make sure that what you are seeing is what you think it is. Is there hand holding, kissing? If not, it might not be what it seems. But if there is no doubt, watch for details in the event you choose to confront them at a later date, or perhaps have a conversation with the person being cheated on.
2 – Keep it to yourself for now. Tell no one. Not your friends, or your significant other. Not even your mother. Just flat out keep it to yourself. Nothing good will come of you gossiping about people you know. You might at some point choose to speak with the people involved, but not right away. Give yourself some time to think it over first.
3 – Give it some serious thought. Think about the relationship between you and the person you’ve caught. Are they a friend? A spouse or significant-other, of a friend? A co-worker or boss? The type of relationship will likely determine the action you choose to take. Consider the impact on the people involved, and on yourself. Quite often the bearer of bad news winds up generating a lot of animosity. If you feel close to the person doing the cheating, than you might consider speaking with them about what you saw. Perhaps you were mistaken. Maybe it was a close relative and they were simply behaving as they normally do. Or worst case, they’ll know to be more careful in the future. At any rate, the best course of action is generally to speak to the cheater or the cheatee in these two cases: If either the cheater or cheatee is a close friend. In any other instance, it’s really none of your business.
4 – Decide on a course of action. After careful consideration, make a decision on what you will do. Once again, base your decision on logic and what you truly believe will be best for the people involved that you care about. And once again, if none of the people involved are very close friends of yours, keep it to yourself. Tell no one.
5 – Follow through with your decision. Once you’ve made your decision, follow through on what you’ve decided. Don’t chicken out. Don’t hesitate either, because things happen and it could become known that you knew what was going on and remained silent.
These five excellent tips on what to do if you see someone you know cheating can be used by anyone who happens upon someone they know cheating on someone. If you ever find yourself in such a situation, I hope these tips help. Good luck.