I’m currently on vacation in Chiang Mai, Thailand, and just spent part of yesterday with a Thai woman who’s boyfriend broke up with her a couple of weeks ago. During the last two weeks, she has called him at least one hundred times, begging him to take her back. His response? “It’s over. Get it?” and this was in a text message.
Needless to say, she is devastated and asking over and over “Should I call him?”. The correct answer? “No”. When a guy breaks up with you, you should never call him and especially not to beg him to take you back. Men don’t take women calling them begging very well, and here’s why.
Don’t Lose Your Self-Respect – When a guy breaks up with you and you call him begging him to take you back, you immediately lose any respect he had for you. Continued calls, text message and begging will turn him off even faster. Don’t call him. Accept the break up and move on – happily. The result? Ninety percent of the time he’ll decide he’s made a mistake and want you back.
Men Want What They Can’t Have – Men like a challenge. They like women who are not easy, and who are definitely not too nice. If you are too easy, keep calling, keep begging and pleading, and keep contacting him then you’re an easy girl, no challenge, and his interest for you is gone. Completely. So, if you want your boyfriend back when he’s broken up with you, don’t call him and when he does eventually call you (and he will!), tell him you’re busy and you’ll have to call him back. Then wait two or three days. By this point, he will be chomping at the bit, wondering what you’re doing and who you’re with and why you haven’t called him.
Men Like A Woman Who Doesn’t Put Up With Their B.S. – When a man breaks up with you and you don’t call him, what you’re saying to him is “I don’t need you and I don’t need this relationship. I’ve got better things to do”, and then you get out there and you do them. If you call him begging for him to take you back, you’re putting up with his B.S. If you stand up for yourself and let it be known you’re not willing to put up with his behavior, he’ll respect you a lot more. Too many women are afraid that, if they stand up for themselves, their boyfriend will leave them. Not true. In fact, they’re a lot more likely to stick around if you do. The last time a guy broke up with me I told him, “Yep, you’re absolutely correct. Our relationship isn’t working, let’s just break up”. Needless to say, five days later, he was on the phone begging me to take him back.
Men Like Women Who Like Themselves – When it comes to you and a man, always put yourself first. If a man sees that you like yourself and you’re not willing to accept behavior from him that is disrespecting yourself, they like you even more and really want to be with you. The last time the guy I like did something I didn’t like, I sent him an e-mail simply saying, “Your behavior isn’t acceptable to me. If you continue with this behavior, I need to just stop seeing you as I respect myself too much to put up with this from anyone”. I got an immediate apology via e-mail within 30 minutes followed by another e-mail two hours later asking “Did you get my ‘sorry’ e-mail? Why have you not replied to me?” I made him wait and then told him in no uncertain terms, why I would not put up with this behavior from him. Believe me, he hasn’t done it since and he now looks at me with a new look of love in his eyes.
So, remember…..the next time your boyfriend breaks up with you, thank him kindly, tell him he’s correct, and then disappear from the face of the earth – and don’t call him!. By the time he is finally able to contact you, he’ll be so happy, he’ll be putty in your hands.